THE ADVANTAGES AND DISADVANTAGES OF BEING ALONE

I started living alone only a few months ago I as I took up a job in another city.Before that, I had a rather flimsy idea in my mind about living alone. That
it was running away from something very disturbing,an act of courage, also a kind of self-imposed punishment for living a very sheltered life with my parents or a determination to move out of my comfort zone and see, if I am able to survive and grow.

I found out that in a city that is alien to you and where you don't know many people, living alone can be oppressive. Humans are social beings and living in seclusion can give a suffocating feeling. When you go out you feel one with everyone you meet if you have developed a spiritual attitude of thinking of everybody as humans and different.

Sometimes you start thinking that it's true that loneliness kills people. Sometimes you enjoy people telling that it's great to live without strings. Nobody would be pulling you back anytime you want to do something. You know in your heart that nothing between these two is absolutely true. Yet, the summer afternoons with their eerie silence and warm wind make life so solitary and forlorn. But I will tell you a truth, it's very very normal to feel so. Even people who have got everything of their heart's desire also feel this way.

The truth is that all of us are lonely inside. A part of us remains alone. If we are fortunate enough, we get people who understand this loneliness and be balm and also respect it at the same time.

At times I have felt it strongly that if you need to do something productive or creative like writing or doing research,loneliness can be a gift.The quiet moments that you would have found oppressive become a spur to reflect on things and induce creativity. You start getting insight into things which, otherwise would never have entered your head. You start using loneliness to rise above the commonplace and the ordinary and bringing out whatever gift God has sent you with and sharing it .If you are being pulled apart by a thousand obligations and numerous people, you cannot do too much, may be. That's why loneliness has remained a blessing for gifted people or people with some talent.

Excess of nothing is good. And finding a middle path has been the greatest ordeal of the human race. Many a great men have learnt to live with loneliness and have been able to turn it into aloneness. Many others have learnt to remain lonely in the crowd. Many others have learnt to balance between the two. The mystery lies in recognizing yourself who you are and how are you destined to act.

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